At my daughter’s eighth birthday, my brother suddenly announced he’d gotten into Harvard. Applause erupted. The celebration shifted instantly—balloons, cake, attention—all redirected to him. My daughter was ignored, then ordered to kneel and wipe frosting off the floor while adults stepped around her like she wasn’t there. I didn’t shout. I didn’t stop them. I watched. The next morning, they found a single folder waiting on the table. As they opened it, the color drained from their faces.

At my daughter’s eighth birthday, my brother suddenly announced he’d gotten into Harvard. Applause erupted. The celebration shifted instantly—balloons, cake, attention—all redirected to him. My daughter was ignored, then ordered to kneel and wipe frosting off the floor while adults stepped around her like she wasn’t there. I didn’t shout. I didn’t stop them. I watched.
The next morning, they found a single folder waiting on the table.
As they opened it, the color drained from their faces.

At my daughter’s eighth birthday party, the living room was full of color. Balloons taped to the walls. A cake shaped like a rainbow. Paper crowns sliding off children’s heads as they ran in circles, laughing. My daughter, Lena, stood in the center of it all, cheeks flushed, eyes bright. For one afternoon, she believed she mattered most.

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